Inviting Conversation: Holiday Special Edition

November 22, 2016 4 Comments

Dreading the conversation over the Thanksgiving table this week?

Not looking forward to reconnecting with a friend, colleague or relative who thinks very differently than you?

How about inviting them into a different kind of conversation—one that enables folks to hear one another across deep divides and to share differing perspectives without inflicting excessive injury.

Tips for Deep Listening

Listening as an Ally

Try introducing the practices of deep listening to unlock a conversation where everyone can both speak their truth and hear other folks’ truths without convincing, berating, or arguing.

Listening as an Ally

Try introducing the practices of deep listening to unlock a conversation where everyone can both speak their truth and hear other folks’ truths without convincing, berating, or arguing. It’s harder than you might think, especially when you think you are right. But remember, these loved ones probably think they are right, too. And, in entrenched conflicts, everyone generally tends to view themselves as the victim and others as holding all the power. Deep listening can be a powerful way to break through all of that.

In these times, deep listening seems more necessary than ever. So, take the risk to really listen to those around you without trying to convert them to your way of thinking. And ask them to take the risk to really listen to you too, without trying to convert you to their way of thinking. Some of what you hear may make your blood boil. Some may make you shake your head in wonder or despair. Some will make you want to ask more questions. This is good – seeking to understand does not imply you agree. Only that you are willing to explore. In the end, if you can use the guidelines shared below, you’ll create a safe space for conversation where you’ll end up still loving one another and you’ll be better informed and better able to engage in the tumult that is our political space this holiday season and beyond. Let us know what you learn!

Tips for Deep Listening

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4 Comments

  • Karen Cvitkovich says:

    I would like to join the national call to dialogue

  • Patsy says:

    #13 What a bunch of crock !. My knows more about the economy that this quack. He makes David Liareah, Richard and bi look inl.glitenteBi, you ought to apply for the job of the Chief bull-shitter at the NAR. Atleast some of your posts crack me up.

  • Catherine says:

    These are good tips, thank you. I recently heard a lawmaker tell a story about talking to his colleagues about a controversial policy. He went to talk to everyone, and only listened. He didn’t share his opinions. One of them actually changed their mind, from having the chance to talk about it. Powerful!

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