Practices for Resilience and DevelopmentDecember 5, 2013 5 Comments
When I take time to slow down, as I was able to do over the holiday break last week, my interest is refueled in practices that support our ability to maintain perspective and a sense of effective agency in the world. My line of inquiry is not simply around what can keep us energized, pull us back from the edge, or deal with burn-out, but focused on how we can align our internal state with external aspirations in an integrated way and grow ourselves so we can help evolve larger systems. My thinking and reading often takes me back to the work of Barbara Fredrickson, the emotions scientist based at the University of North Carolina, as well as to a host of others in the fields of positive and social psychology. Having revisited some of these writings over the break, here are 10 recommended practices for personal and social resilience and development:
- Ritualize gratitude: Fredrickson defines gratitude as noticing the gifts and blessings in our lives. One way to notice is to keep a gratitude journal. The suggestion is to, at the start or end of each day, write at least one thing for which we are grateful. Studies show that this helps to develop our ability to handle adversity and grow possibility.
- Write for 15 minutes a day, especially after or during a difficult or challenging situation: Research has shown this can help with meaning making and resilience.
- Practice 3-5 acts of kindness every day: A practice that I like to invite groups to engage in is to note what assets we have that we can pass on to those in our networks. As the world’s wisdom traditions have long known, this has tremendous personal and social benefit.
- Get the body moving: Go for a 20-30 minute walk. Do yoga. Maira Kalman among others has demonstrated the power of movement as a generative force of intellect, awareness, and creativity.
- Laugh: Drs. Steven J. Wolin and Sybil Wolin have noted the connection between creativity and humor in people who are resilient. Check out some of these laughter exercises.
- Visualize success: In appropriate doses, optimism has been shown to broaden our view on life and possibility. Consider doing the best possible future self exercise.
- Get into nature: Research shows that getting out into nature promotes positive emotions and that viewing and walking in nature have been associated with heightened physical and mental energy.
- Use the mantra, “Be open”: Fredrickson’s research in particular suggests that if we try to force ourselves to be positive or happy, this can backfire. Much better to try to keep an open mind.
- Reach out and connect to others who feed us: We are social beings, and who we associate with has implications for our outlook on life.
- Meditate: Increasingly we hear about the health and outlook benefits of mindfulness practice, including loving kindness meditation. Fredrickson’s web page has links to several different guided meditations.
I hope that readers will share other practices that you have found helpful as well as your thoughts about the connection between personal practice and social change.
Great guidance. I would add pray and practice compassion for oneself and others.
Thank you for the gift of this list! I am pinning it to my wall (actual and digital)!
Great to know, Lisa. Thanks for responding and sharing!
Fantastic stuff, Curtis. Thank you!